A woman who lives in survival mode from masculine traits, always on doing mode, hustling and pushing, is a woman who has her nervous system activated all the time.

She is always feeling on edge, anxious, worried about her future, and constancly thinking that if she doesn’t do enough or work enough, doom is around the corner and her life will be crumbling down.

She is basically in fight or flight mode. Either she is going from task to task all day long, or she’ll feel frozen and unable to do anything.

And she repeats these cycles to the point of exhaustion and her physical and mental health suffering.

On the other hand, a woman in her feminine energy and living a soft life is a woman with a calm nervous system.

She knows that her well being always comes first, and in order to live a soft and beautiful life she has to do exactly the opposite of survival mode: do less, trust more, feel safe in her skin, feeling supported by the Universe, asking and receiving help, focusing on enjoying her life and not worrying about the future.

She lives a slow and soft life.

Many women think that if they had the perfect circumstances, they would be able to calm down, do less and live peacefully, but in reality your life will never change if you don’t change first internally.

As within, so without.

It starts with you deciding to live a different life. To say goodbye to hustle mode and exhausting yourself and focusing on feeling good at all times.

It also means living with different beliefs and having a different perception of life.

Because life is what we choose it to be.

There is not one reality that is THE reality. Every person and every woman has the power to create her life the way she decides and feels right to her.

And no one will do that for you, but you.

If your goal is to live a peaceful and soft life from your feminine energy, you’ll need to do your inner work first and learn to calm down your nervous system, so your external life will change to become a match to your new energy.

Is not about having the perfect circunstances, it about you deciding to live the beautiful life you deserve.

And in order to do that, you’ll need to slow down and learn how to calm down and regulate your nervous system:

Understanding the Nervous System

The nervous system is a complex network that controls and coordinates body activities. It consists of the central nervous system (CNS) and the peripheral nervous system (PNS).

The autonomic nervous system (ANS), a part of the PNS, regulates involuntary functions such as heart rate, digestion, and respiratory rate. The ANS has two main branches:

• Sympathetic Nervous System (SNS): Activates the ‘fight or flight’ response during perceived threats.

• Parasympathetic Nervous System (PNS): Promotes the ‘rest and digest’ state, helping the body relax and recover.

For optimal health, balancing these systems is essential. Here are several ways to calm your nervous system:

1. Deep Breathing Exercises

Deep breathing is a simple yet powerful technique to activate the PNS. When you take deep, slow breaths, you send signals to your brain to relax.

• How to Practice:
• 1. Sit or lie down in a comfortable position.
  2. Close your eyes and take a deep breath in through your nose, allowing your abdomen to expand.
  3. Exhale slowly through your mouth, letting your abdomen fall.
  4. Repeat for 5-10 minutes.

2. Progressive Muscle Relaxation (PMR)

Progressive muscle relaxation involves tensing and then slowly releasing different muscle groups. This practice helps reduce physical tension and mental stress.

• How to Practice:
  1. Find a quiet, comfortable place to sit or lie down.
  2. Start with your feet and work your way up to your head.
  3. Tense each muscle group for 5-10 seconds, then relax for 20-30 seconds.
  4. Notice the contrast between tension and relaxation.

This practice also helps you connect to how your body feels, and get used to the feeling of relaxation.

3. Mindfulness Meditation

Mindfulness meditation focuses on being present in the moment, which can help calm the mind and reduce stress.

• How to Practice:
  1. Sit comfortably with your back straight and close your eyes.
  2. Focus on your breath, noticing the sensation of air entering and leaving your nostrils.
  3. When your mind wanders, gently bring your attention back to your breath.
  4. Practice for 5-20 minutes daily.

4. Physical Activity

Regular physical activity is a natural stress reliever. Exercise helps release endorphins, which improve mood and reduce stress hormones.

• Suggestions:
  • Take a brisk walk or jog.
  • Practice yoga or tai chi.
  • Engage in activities you enjoy, such as dancing or swimming.

5. Aromatherapy

Aromatherapy uses essential oils to promote relaxation and well-being. Scents like lavender, chamomile, and bergamot are known for their calming effects.

• How to Use:
  • Add a few drops of essential oil to a diffuser.
  • Mix with a carrier oil and apply to your skin.
  • Add to your bath for a relaxing soak.

6. Adequate Sleep

Quality sleep is vital for a healthy nervous system. Lack of sleep can increase stress levels and impair cognitive function.

• Tips for Better Sleep:
  • Maintain a regular sleep schedule.
  • Create a relaxing bedtime routine.
  • Keep your bedroom cool, dark, and quiet.
  • Avoid screens and heavy meals before bedtime.

7. Healthy Diet

A balanced diet supports overall health and helps manage stress. Certain nutrients, like omega-3 fatty acids, magnesium, and B vitamins, are particularly beneficial for the nervous system.

• Dietary Tips:
  • Eat a variety of fruits, vegetables, and whole grains.
  • Include lean proteins and healthy fats.
  • Stay hydrated by drinking plenty of water.

8. Social Connections

Strong social connections can buffer against stress and promote emotional well-being. Spend time with family and friends, and seek support when needed.

• Suggestions:
  • Schedule regular catch-ups with loved ones.
  • Join clubs or groups that interest you.
  • Consider therapy or support groups if you’re feeling overwhelmed.

9. Take time to relax

Taking time to relax everyday is key in your life!

You can go for a walk, take a bubble bath, have a cup of tea in your sofa, take a nap, etc.

It is your me time with no interruption, and your time to calm down your nervous system and allow yourself not to worry, not to stress.

Why? Because when you do this things to relax, you are getting out of your mind (masculine energy) and moving into your body and your senses (feminine energy).

You are connecting to feeling good. And when your focus is on feeling good and relaxing, watch your anxiety and worries going away.

Check here daily rituals for feminine energy.

10. Learning to Feel Safe

A big key of calming down your nervous system and embodying your feminine energy is to learn to feel safe.

Know that your anxiety and your worry are more illusions.

Even if you went through bad times in the past, that doesn’t mean you’ll be there again. Let go of your past. Write your fears in a piece of paper and throw it in the garbage.

You need to start trusting yourself, trusting that the Universe has your back, accepting help from others, and learn that as long as you follow your intuition and what feels right to you, you’ll always feel safe.

So you know that you don’t have to be on doing mode all the time, because even when you are resting, you are being taken care of and safe.

This is key so you step out of a mindset or lack and scarcity and fear, and into a mindset and energy or abundance, prosperity and love.

11. From masculine energy to living from your feminine energy

A woman in survival mode always on doing mode is living from her masculine traits.

She defines goals and tasks and her life is a daily run to complete them. A straight line.

That is why she gets exhausted. Whilst using that masculine energy supports her anxiety and worry that she must be productive at all times or else, it is also exactly what is draining her.

Because women don’t have as much testosterone as men to keep going all the time. And we also have monthly hormonal cycles and changes when we have less energy and we require more rest.

So living from your feminine energy on the other hand, is honouring your cycles. Is listening to how you feel and putting your well being as the priority.

You do this by saying no to things and people who drain you or push you into a masculine energy of doing.

You focus insyead on what brings you peace, calm, joy, happiness. And discard the rest.

You also get help! Delegate, outsource, hire help, ask for help. So you do less, and live more.

And as you realize that life will adjust itself when you prioritize your well being, you’ll embody your feminine energy even more.

Your masculine energy will still be there with you for you to use it when YOU decide, and to support your feminine energy. It’s not running the show anymore.

Calming your nervous system is essential for maintaining overall health and well-being.

By incorporating these techniques into your daily routine, you can reduce stress, improve your mood, and start living from your feminine energy.