First of all, what is a healthy masculine man?
Many women tend to think that being masculine equals being very wealthy, having an Instagram lifestyle, and plenty of options when it comes to women.
Although of course a masculine man can be all that, in reality a healthy masculine man is a man who has high values when it comes to women, relationships and his life in general.
He is family oriented, he wants to be devoted to only one woman, he is kind, empathic, a provider and a protector.
He is generous and wants to be of service.
He doesn’t have to be wealthy, but he is financially stable and responsible for his finances, has several streams of income and/or investments, and is psychologically and emotionally stable.
This kind of man is masculine and is living his life purpose, is driven and has goals. And he wants to give a wonderful life to his woman and his children.
So naturally he wants to have by his side a feminine woman who is confident, empathic, nurturing, has self love and wants a high value man by her side.
Together they can have a beautiful life.
So what exactly a healthy masculine man looks for in a woman? Take a look:
1. He wants her fully authentic self
A healthy masculine man wants a woman who wouldn’t change to be with him, who doesn’t give a dime about what others think of her.
She is genuine and authentic and she doesn’t do performative femininity to get validation from others or to get an outcome (conscious men see right through this).
She’s not arrogant, she just knows who she is, and she doesn’t need to prove she’s entitled to live the way she wants.
Of course, they sometimes have to make tough decisions in their life together, but she doesn’t shrink and sell herself below her value just to make him happy.
A conscious man wants to see his woman glowing and truly happy. If she ain’t it, he ain’t it either.
Not because she’s in charge of his feelings (she’s not), but because the second best gift she could give him was her authentic happiness.
2. He wants her authentic happiness
He wants his woman to love life so much that her radiant joy is present in the room.
He’s not expecting her to be happy all the time – he doesn’t want a Stepford woman with a fake smile. He just wants her to be aware enough that she is responsible for her own happiness, whilst he makes sure to add to it.
Understanding this allows both partners to bring their truths into the relationship, which is essential to fostering true intimacy, which a conscious man truly desires.
3. He wants to be loved with fierce devotion
A healthy masculine man wants his wife to radiate her love, “all over him.”
That would be an important reservation though, because many women love with this wild devotion, but in a way that is often self-destructive.
A conscious and healthy man doesn’t want a woman who gives up himself just to love him or stay even if he repeatedly misbehaves, after all he is just a human too.
4. He wants to communicate with her openly
A healthy masculine man wants a woman who tells him her truth and her needs, a woman who knows men are not equipped to read minds.
A healthy conscious man wants no barriers to communication and no avoidance behaviours. He speaks clearly and from the heart and wants a woman who does the same.
He wants a woman who will support him and who has learned the difference between healthy, honest communication and stingy criticism.
5. He wants her to surrender to love
An unconscious relationship is a battle of the egos, between two people who basically live together in fear.
When both partners live in their own ego stories (LIES = Living In Ego Stories), they believe their fear-based thoughts.
In a relationship where these fear-based thoughts dominate, this dynamic will inevitably lead to fierce power struggles.
What does it mean to surrender to love?
To surrender to love means that trust is greater than fear. Also means being willing to do the inner work to recognize how you shift your attitude from fear (speaking ego) to love.
A healthy masculine man has learned to trust in love, and wants her to do the same. Because love is the highest destination.
6. He wants her to express herself sexually
Healthy masculine men want sex. Passionately. He doesn’t want power games, reservations, negotiations – in relation to sex.
Because she surrenders to love and she trusts him outside of the bedroom, she is deeply connected to her inner radiant, sensual, feminine essence, which she enthusiastically, wholeheartedly and joyfully offers to him.
Sexuality will be the natural expansion of her self love and she will enjoy sex as much as he does… if not even more !
Because he too is surrendered to love, he will always be sensitive to what she needs.
Is there something else you would add to this list? Let me know in the comments below!
